Dating a drug user

29-Nov-2019 18:48

With a high-functioning addict, you can toss aside the archetypal image of an “addict.” You won’t find these people pushing shopping carts up and down the sidewalks of skid row.In fact, they work overtime to keep up appearances and hold down jobs.Because functioning addicts are so good at masking their struggles and covering their tracks, friends and loved ones often aren’t aware of a problem…until it’s too late.As with everyone addicted to drugs and alcohol, high-functioning addicts are not a lost cause.When you think of drug addiction, many people immediately associate the disease with the kind of tragic, rock-bottom moments we’re privy to on shows like Intervention or Celebrity Rehab.The problem is that, nine times out of ten, Hollywood gets it wrong.This time is usually described as a period of charm, fascination, and attraction.The new relationship is so intense that the addict is usually able to hide their demons.

I learned the terms,“let go and let God,” and “detachment,” in those meetings but I wasn’t ready to do that.Opie embodied that “fuck you, I won’t do what you tell me” mentality that I craved in a partner.I longed for a tortured soul, someone who was messed up enough that only drugs and alcohol seemed like the cure for the ailments in their world.I roll my eyes now at how both ridiculous and insulting that thought is to those who know the very dark side of drug and alcohol addiction, both personally and as an outsider looking in at a loved one.Although my fiancé now doesn’t do drugs and barely drinks, my past is riddled with men who did, and still do.

I learned the terms,“let go and let God,” and “detachment,” in those meetings but I wasn’t ready to do that.

Opie embodied that “fuck you, I won’t do what you tell me” mentality that I craved in a partner.

I longed for a tortured soul, someone who was messed up enough that only drugs and alcohol seemed like the cure for the ailments in their world.

I roll my eyes now at how both ridiculous and insulting that thought is to those who know the very dark side of drug and alcohol addiction, both personally and as an outsider looking in at a loved one.

Although my fiancé now doesn’t do drugs and barely drinks, my past is riddled with men who did, and still do.

Al-Anon teaches that you can emotionally detach from an addict while still being with them physically if they are actively using.